By Jenifer Metzger, Contributing Writer
One of my favorite quotes says:
The grass isn’t green on the other side. It is greener where you water and fertilize it.
Often we see friends, or even those we do not know, and become jealous of what their marriage looks like. A friend regularly posts pictures onto Facebook of the beautiful bouquets her husband surprises her with. The couple at church always sits snuggled up to one another sharing their Bible. The couple next to us at the restaurant is laughing together as they sit hand in hand. Why, oh, why doesn’t my marriage look like that!?
I am not the best with plants. I enjoying looking at them and love the the character they bring to our home, but caring for them is another story. In our home we have two plants right now. One sits in our living room and I water it regularly. The other sits on our front porch and I often forget about it. Today I noticed the one on the porch is dead. It only died because it was not cared for.
Marriage is the same way. We must water and care for our marriage regularly. Once we place the wedding bands on each other’s fingers and the minister pronounces us man and wife, the work doesn’t stop. It has just begun.
How do we water our marriage?
- Date regularly. Go out on a date at least once a month. If finances are tight or you cannot find a babysitter, feed the kids an easy dinner and send them to bed a bit early, then light the candles and have a romantic dinner at home.
- Do the things you did when you dated. When we are dating we do special things for the one we love. We take extra care with our appearance, write love notes, and day dream about our sweet one. Do those things again.
- Remember that no one is perfect. You may see the beautiful red roses your friend posts on Facebook, but you didn’t hear the disagreement they had last week. You may see the couple in church looking cozy, but you don’t know what they struggle with at home. Everyone has flaws. No human is perfect, therefore no marriage is perfect.
- Touch is a powerful thing. Chances are when you were dating, you and your mate loved to touch. You walked hand in hand, you sat with your arm around her shoulder. You grazed your hand across his arm as you walked by. Touch shows love without words.
- Pray together. Praying together is vital for a marriage.
Just like we have to water our lawns and our gardens, we must ‘water’ our marriage.
What are other ways you water your marriage?