Written by Gina Lee, Contributing Writer
Be quiet & be still. Bite your tongue. Put others before yourself. Great advice. Hard to follow. Especially as a strong willed, smart, savvy woman-turned-wife-and-mother. Or, more honestly, hard for me.Before going any further, let’s pause and look to the Word of God.
Proverbs 31:10-12, “Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is worth more than precious rubies. Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. She will not hinder him but help him all her life.”
Some days this piece of Scripture is so encouraging to me. “Yes, that’s what I am doing, thank you Lord!” Other days… not so much. It’s more like a punch in the gut. “Uhg, I am so not like that today. Bleh, I need you Lord!” And I’ll embarrassingly admit that sometimes I don’t even desire to be like the woman described in these verses. Those are the times I’ve allowed other ‘voices’ to be louder in my life than God’s. So how does a wife (and tired mother) be more of a help rather than hindrance to her husband?
By letting God be God.
When I find my day to be trying, when my relationship with my husband is strained, when I feel he is ‘out to get me’, when I find his daddy skills lacking – it’s almost always, always because I am trying to be god. Not on purpose, as in I declare ‘I want to be god”, but as in I want to be in control and my way is the right way and my husband isn’t as knowing as I am. It’s a horrible place to be in. And it is absolutely not helpful.
The only way to stop trying to be god, is to know the One True God. To spend time in His presence, no matter how fleeting the moments are. He is the only one who can refocus your heart and mind to the things that truly matter. Only God can take your strong will, and gently bend it to match His perfect will. That is when you can see your husband through His eyes. And by seeking to follow God, the rest falls into place with you even trying.