By Jenifer Metzger, Contributing Writer
The Christmas season is upon us and if you are anything like me, you don’t know what to get the love of your life. In Christmases past, I have spent months trying to decide what to get my husband. While I know that gifts are just material things and not important, I enjoy showering my husband with tokens of my love.
Sometimes finances stand in the way. Sometimes simply being unable to find that perfect gift hinder me.
But there are two things that cost no money and will always be considered the greatest gift.
Life is busy. Sometimes we get so busy that we forget to slow down and give our mate our time. Be intentional about give your spouse some time each and every day. If your schedule allows, get up and have coffee with them in the morning before work. Or perhaps after work you can spend twenty minutes alone in the bedroom talking before dinner. Whatever your lifestyle allows, be sure to give your mate undivided time and attention each day.
On top of time each day, date nights are vital to a marriage. Schedule date nights. Plan ahead thinking of things your mate likes to do. The money you would spend on a gift, use for gift cards to his/her favorite restaurants, movie tickets if your spouse likes movies or game tickets for their favorite sporting event or concert. Write down the date nights on index cards and place them, along with the gift cards/cash, in envelopes with the dates on them If you have little ones at home, pre-arrange for babysitters. Having your date nights planned in advance with things your mate enjoys shows them how much you value being together.
Are you holding any unforgiveness in your heart toward your spouse? Pray and ask God to reveal to you any grudges you may be holding on to. As a gift to your mate, a gift that will bless you as well, let go of the hurt, anger and bitterness. Simply lay it at the feet of Jesus and leave it there. Holding onto past pain hinders your marriage. Let it go. As a physical expression of this gift, write the pain down on a piece of paper, place it in a can and burn it. Show your mate that you letting go and forgiving them.
This Christmas, instead of spending your hard earned money on things that will soon be forgotten, on something that will not last, give your spouse the gift of your time and your forgiveness. These are things that will create memories and a beautiful closeness in your marriage.