By Blair Allen, Contributing Writer
If you have been a Christian for more than a decade you will remember the huge “True Love Waits” campaign during the 1990’s. The basic premise was if you were truly in love that you would wait until marriage to have sex. I remember the sermons being heavy on the “wait to have sex” but light on the “purity is good because…”.
What I heard was, God wants you to not have sex. That is the rule. Do not break the rule. Unfortunately, I was a seriously rebellious teenager. I tried being “good” but when that did not give me the results I wanted (freedom to do as I pleased, when it pleased me), I jumped ship. My motto was “rules were meant to be broken”.Maybe you were that same kind of teen. Perhaps you did not receive Biblical teaching before you were married in the area of sex and marriage. Maybe you weren’t saved until after marriage and had no clue there was another way to do things. Does that mean you can never have the kind of marriage that God intended for you to have? Are you doomed to Second Class Christian relationship status? Let us see what the scriptures say.
Romans 3:23 For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God’s glorious standard.
We have all sinned in one way or another.
Ezekiel 18:30-32“Repent! And turn from all your transgressions, so iniquity will not be your ruin. Cast away from you all your transgressions, by which you have transgressed; and get a new heart and a new spirit. For why will you die. For I have no pleasure in the death of him who dies,” says the Lord GOD. “Therefore turn [from you evil ways] and live!”
1 John 1:7-9 But if we are living in the light, as God is in the light, then we have fellowship with each other, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, cleanses us from all sin. If we claim we have no sin, we are only fooling ourselves and not living in the truth. But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness.
God does not want you to waller in your sin. (Waller is a southern term for roll around lazily or gloomily.) He wants to forgive you for your sins and help you live a life opposite from your old life so that you may REALLY live!
Revelation 3:19Those whom I love I rebuke and discipline. So be earnest, and repent.
With all your heart pursue God. Seek His ways. Know that you will still have to pay the consequences of your previous actions but that God loves you and will mold you into a better person through the discipline you incurred.
Romans 8:1So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus.
The ultimate purpose of marriage is to bring God glory. Marriage does this by reflecting the beautiful love between Christ and His church. Do not live in such bondage over your previous (forgiven and repented for) sexual sin that you snuff out the light that God desires shine to through your marriage. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says that you are a new creature, your old self is gone and your new self has begun. That goes for your marriage too!