Preparing for Parenthood

I just became a father for the very first time. My wife and I had twin boys on December 26th. Return on Thursday to see an update about our boys.

Preparing for Parenthood

Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.Psalms 127:3-5

 

As I teeter on this precipice, about to take the plunge into parenthood, I find myself desperately hoping that I am sufficiently prepared for the behemoth task of raising children. Have I read enough christian parenting books? Have I picked the brains of enough experienced parents? Have I spent enough time in prayer and the studying of God’s Word?

The Bible makes it abundantly clear that the raising of children is not to be taken lightly. On the contrary, I would dare to claim that it is one of the most important responsibilities we can possibly be given on this earth.

We are responsible for the physical welfare of our kids. Food. Clothing. Housing.

We are responsible for the mental well-being of our kids. Education. Emotional stability. Morality.

Ultimately, we are responsible for the spiritual nourishment of our kids. Bible study. Prayer. Worship.

Concerning the latter, I do not mean to say that our children’s salvation is ours to ensure. God calls those to Him that He wills, with no influence from us. What I am saying is this: God commands us as parents to raise our children in the training and admonition of the Lord.

And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates. ~ Deuteronomy 6:6-9

How We Are Preparing

My wife and I have tried to diligently prepare ourselves to be the parents that God commands us to be. We have read numerous parenting books, such as Shepherding a Child’s Heart by Tedd Tripp, and The Faithful Parent by Stuart Scott and Martha Peace. These books and a number of others given us a lot of Biblical advice to consider when it comes to parenting.

We have spoken at length with experienced parents that we admire, parents that have already begun to bear the fruit of their steadfastness, displayed in the conduct and behavior of their children. By doing so we have gleaned much wisdom and insight from those who have already tread the paths we are just embarking upon.

Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. ~ Proverbs 22:6

 

The Bible is an invaluable resource on parenting, rich with passages on how to train, discipline, love, and protect your children. It is far and away the most vital resource on raising kids. Consistent study of the Scriptures has helped to convict and motivate us in our child-raising endeavors.

We are praying daily that God will provide us with the wisdom and patience necessary to being a faithful parent. While we have done plenty of “academic” preparation, the one thing we are really lacking in is boots on the ground experience.

So what do you experienced parents out there have to say? Are there any tips or recommendations that you could share with us that you wish you would have known at the beginning? Share with us in the comments below!

Comments

  1. Wow – it sounds like you’ve prepared and studied and are hoping to be ready for whatever comes your way! I haven’t had twins, so I can’t comment to that end, but one thing I think most of the intense books out there (and I say intense because they are, frankly!) miss is the one tip for the type A parent: relax. Don’t parent from fear or even over-confidence in your method. Learn to think like a child. Learn to take off the ‘parent’ hat and get on the floor and see them eye-to-eye. Try to tickle them – or if they’re so little before they can be tickled, stroke their face, head, toes, trace their fingers, hands and arms – every day. Delight in them. Reflect on what our Heavenly Father must feel when He carries us, lifts us, cleans us up, corrects us, nurtures us. Jump into the experience with joy. Cast all anxieties on Him – anxiety is a huge pitfall for parents (I was going to say ‘new parents’ but it applies across the board). Anxiety leads to self-reliance which ends up badly whichever course it takes – overconfidence or insecurity. Wow, there’s so much more I have to say. Maybe I’ll make a blog of it…

  2. As a parent of 7 children, the most useful long term advice I have found is to always remember that your child(ren) were Gods first, yours second, His ultimately. We only have a temporary stewardship over that child. As parents we have responsibility to raise these children, but when they excel, it is because of the gifts given them by their Heavenly Parent. If they choose other paths, that is also a part of the human experience, and we can not take everything personally. But boy can we learn about how to love them!

  3. HOW wonderful! Twenty years ago we welcomed our twin boys into the world (Jan. 30). What a whirlwind life was! Enjoy each and every moment. Trust in the truths God has given you in your heart. You want to raise Godly children, then you must remember you are not of this world and have a higher purpose for your family. Our family goal is to get to heaven together.
    God bless you on your family’s journey!

  4. Lillace Christianson says:

    SO Happy for all of you! God bless your family in all ways!

  5. Jason Balmet says:

    Thank you!

  6. Jason Balmet says:

    Oh how wonderful Raissa! Our twins have been such a blessing so far. They are perfect :)

  7. Jason Balmet says:

    Thank you for the advice Cynthia!!

  8. Jason Balmet says:

    I know we will never be fully prepared for everything that comes our way but we can do what we can to try and prepare. We want to make sure to be studying God’s word and doing what we can to Biblically prepare. Thanks for the advice Sarah!!

  9. You’re going to raise stellar sons – I just know it :)

  10. Aaw thanks Sarah!! :)