Marriage Maintenance Checklist

Written by David & Angie Benjamin, Contributing Writers

Marriage Maintenance Checklist

Photo by Cathdew

Quite often we take our cars for maintenance; we also keep a maintenance schedule as home keepers…. Even as bloggers!!!

But how often does your marriage go through maintenance?

What does it need to be fixed and improved?

Here are 3 areas which we think we can often reflect on and take care of them in order to keep our marriage healthy:

1) How are you managing disagreements?

Solve your issues and disagreements on the spot.

‘In your anger do not sin': Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry…Ephesians 4:26

Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ…Ephesians 5:21

Solve any disagreement and forgive each other before the day ends. Huge walls are made by small bricks.

The passage on Ephesians 5:21-24 is a call for wives AND husbands to practice submission to one another. It doesn’t mean that one will dominate the other one but each will serve one another. The relationship between husband and wife must reflect the believer and Christ’s relationship. Christ is the head and we submit to him with joy but he does exercise his leadership with tender love.

2) What kind of words are you using to talk to your spouse?

Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.- Ephesians 4:15 {you can also read verse 31}.

By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures. – Proverbs 24:3-4

Using harsh words and bitterness can hurt as much as using the fists. Build your marriage with words of love, wisdom and peace. Do not let bitterness take place and root deep in your heart.

3) How far are you, how close am I?

What continues to be the foundation for our marriage? How solid our foundation is?

May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had, 6 so that with one mind and one voice you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.
Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God. – Romans 15:5-7

Jesus, the fountain of all wisdom, the only solid foundation for marriage and family. As much as you and your spouse get closer to God as a couple, the closer you’ll grow to each other!