Keeping Christ the Center

By Naomi, Contributing Writer

Around the holiday season, we see many encouragements to keep “Christ” in Christmas. So often our Christmas celebrations can lose the focus of the real reason we celebrate Christmas. Well, a similar thing can happen in a marriage concerning Christ, especially over time as we become more comfortable with being married. It’s not that we don’t want Jesus as the center, we just don’t intentionally put Him there. Today I’m sharing three ways to keep Christ the center of your marriage.


Keeping Christ the Center of Your Marriage

1) Pray together.

This is not always an easy thing to do. It might even feel a little uncomfortable at first. However, it will yield huge benefits for your marriage and definitely assist in keeping Christ the center. We are to “seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” (Matthew 6:33) What a blessing to pray over one another, to pray over concerns and to send up praises as one flesh? Most of all to ask Jesus to abide in every nook and cranny of your union.

A good way to establish a strong prayer life as a couple is to start right away and baby steps. Pray together over one concern and lift up one praise daily if you can. Do this for a week each taking one request to pray. The second week go a little deeper and add things you’re thankful for before any concerns and praises. The third week reach for a little more and add one scripture to pray. Get the picture? Before you know it, the two of you will feel comfortable praying together.

2) Read and Study the Word together.

Family devotions begin long before children enter the picture. This is a wonderful way to build up one another in Christ as you grow together as man and wife.  Making it a weekly, or even a daily, part of married life will draw your union into a deeper relationship with Christ…together! You learn more about who He is and the importance of what He did on your behalf. Pick out a couple’s devotional or select a book of the Bible to read through and meet with one another regularly, asking Jesus to abide in your time of study. Let His wisdom permeate your marriage unto His glory. Reading and studying the Word of God together definitely encourages keeping Christ the center of your marriage. Be like Ezra who “prepared his heart to seek the law of the LORD, and to do it.” (Ezra 7:10) 

3) Attend church together.

Having a home church to attend together offers accountability of faith, spiritual support to grow by, like-minded Christian friends, and opportunities to serve alongside one another. All of these attributes of going to church together can only encourage a Christ centered marriage. If you don’t have a home church, begin praying together for the Lord to show you the one He would have you attend. He designed us to need a community of believers to spur us on in our walk with Jesus. “And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.” (Hebrews 10:24:25)

It takes intentional combined effort as well as loving the Lord with all your heart, soul and mind individually to foster keeping Christ the center of your  marriage. Think of Christ as the glue that holds you together and without Him married life would be more challenging. It’s challenging enough yet without Christ to bind you together, there is a no peace, comfort or trust in the plan He has for your marriage. So pray with your spouse often, attend church every week and study the Bible together to cultivate a marriage where Christ is the heart of it.






  1. Awesome article Naiomi! And I couldn’t agree more. After 33 years of marriage, a homeful of teenagers, and all that goes with life, the praying, being in the Word, and church are ‘indespenible supports’ of our faith. And starting with the little ones when they were little makes their faith just like breathing to them, they can’t imagine any other way. The baby steps suggestion is a great encouragement. I was so tempted over the years to try to make my husband into my image, praying my kind of prayers, memorizing huge amounts of scripture…but patiently doing bite size pieces over a looooooooooooooong time has knit our hearts together in Christ so incredibly and produced the fruit of unity in our marriage that hopefully can be a model to our children in thier lives. He who has begun a good work in you, WILL perform it …