We still remember vividly how much we enjoyed our date nights before getting married. Date nights always meant that we would talk for hours, get to know one another more, tell each other about our hopes and dreams, and look forward to hearing what the other had to say too.After marriage and kids, we kind of lost that. And we both missed it so much! Being married with kids meant that date nights were few and far between.
The bible teaches us that we should encourage each other and hold our marriage in high esteem, and what an amazing opportunity there is in these special nights together – to be intentional with these things.
Hebrews 10:24 And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds.
Hebrews 10:25 Let us encourage one another – and all the more as you see the day approaching
1 Thessalonians 5:11 Encourage one another and build each other up
Hebrews 13:4 Let marriage be held in honor among all
Date nights, special moments that make you feel close to each other ARE encouraging and these moments not only bring you two closer as a married couple, but also and most importantly – closer to God.
So over the years we have tried to be intentional about creating those opportunities, even if we don’t have a sitter (which is 99% of the time). Because of this, our date nights or special moments together were usually at home, in our living room or on our balcony.
We’ll get to what our date nights look like, but first we wanted to share two things we do to make those moments possible, to have our little date nights and special moments that draw us closer.
Making Date Nights Possible
1) We send the kids to their room early
We have an online video streaming. We line up a few movies for the kids to watch in their room, so that we can have a night uninterrupted. Sometimes we will even order them some pizza. Before sending them to their rooms we make sure they are bathed, and ready for bed. They can camp out on the floor (as most kids LOVE!), play board games, build things with their blocks and Lego sets – all while watching a fun move on their computer.
2) We plan ahead
Regardless of how our day or week goes, if we set a date night we keep it. It’s during those rougher times that we need those special moments together. It reenergizes us. Brings us closer. Encourages us.
Here are a few date night ideas
We love each of these, and they are always so refreshing!
1) Sometimes we stay up late
We do this a few times a month. There is something so sweet about snuggling up on the couch with your honey, and talking all night long. Sometimes we’ll talk about a sermon one of us recently heard or about a book one of us is reading.
2) Dinner and a movie
We bring the restaurant food in. Many dates out of the house tend to start with a meal at a restaurant, followed by a movie. With kids and no sitters, that’s really hard for us. So, we order the food to go, and eat it at home. We love ordering from Olive Garden! Sometimes it’s nice having a meal from your favorite date night restaurant, at home.
3) Make a fancy dinner, or your favorite meal together
There is something just so romantic about cooking together. We talk, giggle, and flirt with each other.
Song of Solomon 6:3 I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine
These are our most common date night ideas. We have them at least once a month, and are working on making that at least twice a month – with the goal of having these date nights once a week.
What are some of your favorite date night ideas? Or your favorite way to share a special moment with your beloved?
This post is part of our Date Your Spouse series! The contributors here at A Biblical Marriage have teamed together to bring you 30 days of intentionally dating your spouse! To read more in this series visit the series home page.