Cultivating Gratitude for Your Spouse

By Rachel O’Neill, Contributing Writer

In recent years I have been shocked to discover how much the Word of God stresses the importance of giving thanks. iving thanks honors and glorifies God.So we must be diligent to practice this in marriage!

In recent years I have been shocked to discover how much the Word of God stresses the importance of giving thanks. Passage after passage exhorts the people of God to offer sacrifices of thanksgiving and to give thanks in all circumstances. Giving thanks honors and glorifies God.

“The one who offers thanksgiving as his sacrifice glorifies me;” Psalm 50:23a

 

“Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. ” 1 Thessalonians 5:18

 

“Giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ,” Ephesians 5:20

 

Certainly the command to give thanks for everything must apply to our spouses! For the married Christian, your husband or wife is a very big and important part of your life. God is glorified as we delight in and give thanks for the spouse He has given us!

I'm thankful for a husband who helps around the house!

I’m thankful for a husband who helps around the house!

Granted, in a fallen world, it is not always easy for two sinners living together to be grateful for each other. Familiarity can breed contempt, and it is so easy to become self-absorbed and take your spouse for granted. How can we develop this most important discipline?

  • Count the ways. A habit that I have found to be both enjoyable and beneficial in marriage is to daily record one or two things about my husband which I am thankful for. It could be a character trait, something we enjoy doing together, or a thoughtful gesture he performed. Taking the time to write it down warms my affections for Niall significantly! It opens my eyes to see all of the blessings God has given me in my husband.
  • Vocalize it. Don’t just write them down- verbally thank your spouse for taking out the garbage, working hard for your family, or taking time out of their day to engage and connect with you. If you see something commendable in them, take the time to let them know! Such words of affirmation can be a great blessing and encouragement to your love.
  • Focus on what you have {not what’s missing}. In our world of instant gratification and entitlement attitudes, it can be easy to get stuck on how your spouse isn’t meeting your expectations. Refuse to fall prey to this trap! When such negative thoughts arise, choose to turn them around and give thanks to the Lord for the good things. Remember the qualities that drew you to them in the first place. Meditate on the blessings you enjoy as a couple, and give thanks that the Lord isn’t finished with either of you yet! By His grace, we have so much hope for the future.
I'm thankful for a husband who reads to our daughter!

I’m thankful for a husband who reads to our daughter!

These are a few of the means I’ve employed in cultivating gratitude for my husband. At times I still struggle with complaining and discontentment, but by God’s grace I am pressing on to offer Him a continual sacrifice of thanksgiving, especially for my husband!

How do you cultivate thankfulness for your spouse?

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  1. Thanks for a great post! :)

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