Communicating Your Intentions In Courtship {Dating and Marriage}

By Anna Radchenko, Contributing Writer

Communication is an important aspect of any relationship.  Whether it be professional, with your spouse, children, or friendships, communication is key to establishing a positive, growing relationship.

Communication is Key!

Original Photo of Anna and Ilya Radchenko by: Serg Mayevsky Photography

Especially when beginning to enter dating/courting relationships, predetermining your intentions is the first thing that should be done.  Are you ready for a marriage relationship? Do you want to get to know this person better just to have fun, or in hopes of a committed relationship that leads to marriage?

If you want to glorify God in your dating/courting relationships, you should ask yourself what your intentions are for entering one in the first place.  God desires intimate man and woman relationships to be in the confines of marriage.  If marriage isn’t your goal, than neither should be developing a dating relationship.

“Then the LORD God said, ‘It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.’ . . . Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:18,24, ESV)

Once you’re at a place in your life where you’re ready for marriage, and are prayerfully seeking who would glorify God as your spouse, it is essential that both yourself and the other person clearly communicate your intentions.  If one person is hoping for marriage, and the other isn’t ready for that step, than neither of you are ready to be in a relationship with each other.  God’s timing is perfect.  When two people prayerfully consider each other as a future spouse, God will make His will known.

Trust God.  Ask yourself what your intentions are in a dating relationship.  Communicate your intentions clearly when starting to get closer to another person.  Lastly (yet most important), keep praying for God’s will in that relationship until the moment you say, “I do.”


  1. We can’t deny that most of failed relationships now are due to misunderstanding because of lack in communication. It’s one of the pillars of a relationship. Communication can make or break your relationship in just a snap. So make sure your lines are open!

  2. My boyfriend Greg and I have a new blog called “A Christ-Centered Courtship!” It is a blog that we are writing together that will feature topics for both singles and those in courtships. Our first post discusses “Airing out dirty laundry” and we will also be posting about different topics including: Boundaries,Bible Studies, Marriage Studies, Praying together, Communication, Purity, etc. Feel free to read and share our blog with others. We are also open on feedback and suggestions! Enjoy!!!


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