5 Ways To Spring Clean Your Marriage

By Naomi, Contributing Writer

Spring is almost here and most people will be spring cleaning their homes. Spring cleaning is a yearly task where the home is cleaned from top to bottom after being closed up during the winter season. It is a time to refresh the home. Well, marriages also need a little “spring cleaning” themselves.

5 Ways to Spring Clean Your Marriage!

They can get cluttered with ugly feelings or not-so-forgotten memories of being hurt. Even a marriage needs to be cleansed periodically. If not, those nasty little pesky things left undone just linger waiting to emerge at anytime to cause havoc. So, how do we cleanse our marriage? Here are five ways we can get our marriage back on track:

Getting Back on Track

1. We forgive

Are there things in our marriage that need to be forgiven? Are we harboring hurt feelings that can only lead to bitterness when not dealt with?

Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” (Ephesians 4:32)

 

2. We apologize

Have we hurt the one we love and not taken responsibility for our words or action? We have a rule in our house: If we say or do something which we thought was in good fun but the receiver got hurt, we need to apologize for that even if our intentions were meant for good. How the one on the end received our words or actions matters more than how we intended it to be. Sometimes pride gets in the way of apologizing so we need to squash that pride and say “I’m sorry.

Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed.” (James 5:16)

 

3. We talk

Are there conversations that need to be had? About money, work, relatives, children, health, etc.? Being open with our spouse is very important. There should not be hidden concerns. This creates a wall of distrust. Open, honest and sincere is best!

Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ.” (Ephesians 4:15)


4. We romance

Have we forgotten to spoil our love? Sometimes we get so comfortable in our marriage we forget to demonstrate how much we love our spouse. We begin to take them for granted. Don’t do it. Romance them with love notes, flowers, favorite meals, massages, kind words, holding hands, etc.

Let us not love in word or talk [only] but in deed and in truth.” (1 John 3:18, brackets mine)

 

5. We sacrifice

Are we putting our loves before ourselves? Sacrificing takes more intentional effort. Its easy to get caught up in what we want or desire without any regard to what our spouse might want or desire. Take time to ask them. Make what they love one of the ways you love and appreciate them.

Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.” (Philippians 2:4)

 

Spring cleaning a home requires hard work, intentional behavior and a plan. So does “spring cleaning” a marriage. If we have let things slide or “swept them under the rug”, we need to get on it. Fix that. Be intentional by forgiving them for a hurt even if they don’t seek forgiveness. Show them they are forgiven. Be intentional to ask forgiveness if you have hurt them. Seek to be sincere. Be intentional to romance them, date them, and put them before yourself. Don’t let these things fall to the wayside. Most importantly, talk with one another. Share your heart and build the trust in your marriage.

Does your marriage need some spring cleaning? How will you go about it today?

Comments

  1. My marriage always needs spring cleaning. I need to be vigilant since we have a propensity of being terribly human. Thanks for sharing this post.

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