When the holidays roll in, it is easy to be consumed by the party planning, activities to attend, ministries, gifts to buy, putting up lights, the tree, cooking, and family gatherings. Although all of these things are significant to the holidays, it is also essential to make time for your spouse. We have heard countless times from couples in different walks of life saying they almost felt like they didn’t spend enough time with each other during the season. Here are some ideas to help you keep in tune with each other, while also keeping up with other commitments throughout the season.
1) Start your day off together in prayer.
When we make it a point to begin our day together in prayer we are intentionally drawing ourselves as a married couple to Christ as well as intentionally making time to be together. Maybe grab a cup of coffee and a muffin before the kids wake up, and take some time to talk and pray in the morning together.
2) If you have littles, put them to bed bit earlier than usual a few times a week.
By doing this you are freeing up your evening for each other. The holidays can become a bit chaotic, and I remember countless years when right after the kids went to bed we couldn’t wait to crawl into our bed as well. But by sending them off a few nights in the week a little earlier (or making it a point to stick to bed time even though it’s a festive season), we are able to carve out more time for us to spend 100% focused on each other. You can use this time to watch a movie together, or play some fun games (we are gamers, so that is a fun thing we enjoy doing together).
3) Have a date every other weekend.
Call the sitter, close relative, or friend watch your kids. It doesn’t have to be an evening – lunch dates are just as fun, or just go out for some Starbucks! Reconnect with your spouse and enjoy one-on-one time.
4) When you are planning out your commitments, don’t over-schedule yourselves.
We would all love to be able to attend every Christmas activity we are invited to, or every event our local city is hosting – but if we put all of our energy and efforts into these, we have little to none left for each other. Know your limit, and plan accordingly. If in a weekend you have two events that you could commit to, just pick one – then on that other day take the time for you two.
5) Have a few lazy days together!
Pick a couple of days at random throughout the season and just have a nice relaxed day with each other at home. Reconnect with one another. Head off to the grocery store and stock up on your favorite snacks and pop corn. Rent some movies or some games to play, and just hang out with each other. Sometimes we can get so caught up in the commotion of life, especially during the holidays – we forget to reconnect to our spouse. Days like these will fuel your hearts and reconnect the both of you.
What are some ways you make time for just the two of you during the holidays?
This post is part of our Surviving the Holidays With Your Marriage Intact series! Come back all month long for tips, advice, giveaways, and a FREE eBook on the Holidays here at A Biblical Marriage. You can find the rest of the series HERE.