5 Gifts To Give Your Husband

By Tammy Skipper, Contributing Writer.

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I enjoy searching for gifts to give my husband at Christmas that will really surprise him and make him happy. One year, I enlisted the help of a neighbor and arranged to have a full size air compressor setup in the garage on Christmas morning. I purchased an accessory kit and wrapped it for him to open. He was genuinely perplexed upon opening the accessory kit until he learned what was waiting in the garage. He was very surprised that Christmas.

In our {almost} 19 years of marriage, I’ve searched for great gifts for Christmas, birthdays, and celebrations. I’ve learned that what I give him consistently day in and day out is much more critical than the item wrapped under the Christmas tree. In fact, there are five gifts I know I can give to him anytime to bless him and strengthen our marriage.

Space

My husband needs room to explore, to think, and to take risks. He likes to be outdoors, doesn’t like crowds, and needs to try things that may not work out in the end. Sometimes this is quite literal: like going snow-shoeing with a friend on the mountainside last winter. Sometimes it is less visible: like his approach to studying for his Master’s degree while working full time on Active Duty for the Air Force. When I support him by working around his schedule and encouraging him to take risks, he is better able to fulfill the role God created for him.

Grace

Let’s face it, our husbands are not perfect {whew, me either!} so sometimes they are going to disappoint us or hurt our feelings. And boy, can we have some feelings ladies! It is a lot easier to give him the grace and mercy he needs when I remember that he genuinely loves me. Do you know the best way to be able to exhibit this kind of grace towards our husbands? By reminding ourselves daily of the grace given to us by our Heavenly Father. If you want to be more quick to forgive your husband, do not neglect your own time in God’s Word.

Encouragement

I don’t know if your husband is like mine, but he seems to come up with a new idea nearly every day. It might be about a motorcycle, his job, or where we could go camping next summer. Whatever it is, he is likely to do a better job when I have verbalized my support. Of course, this only works if I’m genuine.

Time

Despite a fear of heights, I learned to rock-climb a few years ago…all because my husband wanted to do it with me. I’ve also spent days on the back of his motorcycle and afternoons shopping at outdoor stores. Make sure you spend time together doing something that has absolutely nothing to do with the kids!

Love

Any gift is worthless without love. Before God tells us in I Corinthians 13 what love is - patient, kind, keeps no records of wrongs – He tells us how important love is. Verse 2 says if I can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. Without love, God’s love through me, any gift I give my husband is worthless.

When you think of giving these gifts to your husband, do the holidays or every-days come to mind first?

This post is part of our Surviving the Holidays With Your Marriage Intact series! Come back all month long for tips, advice, giveaways, and a FREE eBook on the Holidays here at A Biblical Marriage. You can find the rest of the series HERE.

Comments

  1. Excellent gift ideas, Tammy. And they are gifts that truly matter in a marriage!

  2. These are so good. They may vary a little bit for me, but letting him be himself is key. Thanks for spelling it out for me.

  3. What great ideas, Tammy! I thoroughly enjoyed these and will work to remember them this holiday.

  4. So glad you find them helpful. Blessings this Christmas to you both.

  5. Each man is unique, I’m glad your recognized that everything in the list may not apply to your husband. Thanks so much for stopping by the blog.

  6. We’ve had low-budget Christmas seasons and, like this year, hectic Christmas seasons due to our military life. I think both have helped me realize what we truly remember is how we are treated. Thanks so much for stopping by the blog.

  7. Thanks. Blessings to you too!

  8. My husband doesn’t really want gifts at Christmas or his birthday, anyway. I have to work hard to do things everyday that let him know I love him, because getting him some spectacular Christmas present won’t make up for the lack of day-to-day love. No that it would anyway, but sometimes I think subconsciously we (as a materialistic culture) think it will, like the man who buys his wife a diamond ring after cheating on her.

  9. Sometimes those are the best presents! :) Serving from the heart is what really shows our husbands that we love them right?? But often that takes a lot of thought and intentionality to actually make happen ;)

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