By Anna Radchenko, Contributing Writer
“Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.” (Hebrews 13:4, ESV)
Dating in courtship can be tricky, especially when most parents aren’t as involved as they used to be. Before my husband and I got married, we strived to maintain a pure relationship despite our fourteen month engagement. With each of us having parents with different views and “tightness on the reins”, we subconsciously learned which environments gave us the most freedom, and tended to gravitate towards those locations (even though we did not deliberately want to compromise our purity in any way). With that said, whenever we didn’t plan out exactly what we were going to do, it was easy for us to get into tempting situations.
“No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and He will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation He will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.” (1 Corinthians 10:13, ESV)
Now that the weather is warming up, it is the perfect opportunity to spend time with that special someone. However, don’t let the beauty of the moment carry away your clear thinking. Be intentional about where you and your significant other will enjoy each other’s company, and predetermine if any locations will allow too much alone time and cause sinful decisions.
“For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor…” (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, ESV)’
Here are some ideas to promote healthy interaction where you and your date can have fun, get to know each other better, and stay pure while staying far away from the temptation that lurks in solitary situations.
5 Date Ideas Promoting Purity in Courtship
1. Go out in groups.
When my husband and I were getting to know each other as friends, and then as a couple, we spent a lot of our time in groups at Bible studies, ice skating, etc. Going out with a group gives you the opportunity to see how your date treats others, and you. Are they servants? Do they care about others? Or do they tease other people, mistreat you, and create a negative environment?
2. Have a picnic in the park.
This was one of my favorite dates that my husband and I went on while we were engaged. We spent time walking around a public park, and then found a nice picnic table by the lake (with direct views to the path as others were walking by). I enjoyed planning the food we would bring on the picnic, and it was fun to get to know each other better, what we each like and dislike, and how we get along when no one else is directly with us.
3. Visit a museum, mansion, or outdoor garden.
My husband and I love seeing old mansions, and enjoy any opportunity to be outside. With many others roaming the premises, this can be a fun, safe outing.
4. Go to the beach.
Going to the beach is always a fun trip (especially within a group). Ladies, make sure your bathing suits are modest and not tempting to the guys. If you’re not sure, ask them! Don’t allow for any sort of opportunity in which satan can wedge temptation in.
“Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.” (1 Corinthians 6:18, ESV)
5. Attend Bible studies together!
What better way to grow in the Lord and closer to each other in a God-honoring way than to attend a Bible study together? Before we were married, I learned so much about my husband, and myself, during the intimate Bible studies we attended multiple times a week with friends and family.
There are so many other alternatives than just “talking” in the living room, or seeing a movie in a dark theatre. I only listed five, but there are so much more! We’d love to read about your ideas and experiences. Join us in the comments!